As a follow up to my previous post, Four Ways to Love Your Husband, I am sharing here some of the ways I’ve expressed my love and appreciation to my hubby. If you are looking for ways to do so, I hope these help you. Online casino Ireland. ###
Pray for him. This one item can not be emphasized enough among women. Instead of nagging him to change, entrust him to the Lord in prayer. I have to admit that I’m guilty of being a nag. He does listen to me, or probably he just tolerates me, but my constant nagging has not exactly been effective in bringing about a change in him. The best, the most effective way to get through to your husband is to allow the Holy Spirit to work in his heart. I have proven this to be true over and over again in our relationship. Funny thing is, as I pray for him to change his ways, the Holy Spirit is also working in me to change my ways. What sometimes can happen is that I see myself in God’s perspective and see how I have become unappreciative and a complaimer. Instead of appreciating the good he does, I focus on the negative. Praying for someone has a way to make you see that you’re the one who needs to change.
Surprise him with a bouquet of flowers and give it to him in public. Hubby loves to give me flowers and he makes sure that these are the best looking ones. I can honestly say that I have been the subject of envy from other women in church because I’m usually the only one who would have a beautiful bouquet during special occasions. One Valentine’s Day, I decided to surprise him with his own bouquet of flowers. To up the ante further, I brought it to his workplace. I called one of his co-workers and had the bouquet be brought to his office. He was so happy his face was glowing! Even I was surprised with his reaction to it. I did not see it myself but he later told me how happy it made him feel to receive the flowers and to have received it in public. It’s a public proclamation of how much I love him and he felt it.
Weekend at Tagaytay
Trip to Naga City, Cam Sur
Schedule date nights and special weekends with just the two of you. We’ve made it a point to have a date every other week. If we can’t do it every other week, we just don’t let a month go by without going on a date. Our date nights can be super budget-friendly as a date over chips and soda at Mini Stop, or as comfortable over coffee at Starbucks or a special dinner date at our favorite hotel. As well, we do our best to schedule at least one vacation a year with just the two of us. During those times, we focus on each other, catch up on things we’ve not had a chance to talk about and just enjoy being with each other. We both love discovering new places together, and as people sometimes say, we take our nth honeymoon when we go off by ourselves. You don’t even have to be guilty that you’re leaving your kids elsewhere because children like to see how much their parents love each other. Our eldest, Guitar Babe, once told me how much she appreciates seeing us taking time out with each other. This is proof to her of how much we still love and care for each other.
Tell him how much you appreciate him. I shared this on my previous post, but I would emphasize it again. Telling your husband how much you appreciate the things he does for you builds him up. It’s a great confidence booster and relationship builder. At random times, I would let my husband know how much I appreciate his hard work, how his love makes me content and secure, and even how much he satisfies me in bed.
Help him with his tasks. I realize that this is hardly romantic, but hubby definitely appreciates it that I help him with his tasks. There are a lot of things that I can do better than he can and he knows it. He knows I can work faster on the computer or that I write better business letters. When he asks for help, I do my best to accomplish it for him as soon as I can. If I can’t, I simply tell him that I’m busy and can’t attend to it right away. He feels loved that I attend to his needs and not just the basic ones.
Give him gifts. What can be a more tangible way of showing him how much you love him by giving him gifts? It doesn’t even have to be gifts per se, it can just be things he needs that show him that you thought of him on that day. Or it can also be as thoughtful as getting him a new watch. Of course the watches need not be too expensive, for instance I found these Timex Watches from Zalora which are inexpensive yet functional and stylish. Whatever it is, whether expensive or not, it still shows that he is always in your mind.
Never, ever bad-mouth your husband to anyone. This is the man you have committed to living with for the rest of your life, the father of your kids (if you have children) so keep your marital issues to yourself. If you need to talk to someone about it, talk to a professional counselor or someone you know you can trust fully. This someone should be one who has the best in mind for you. Don’t involve your family in your marital woes. Remember that even if you have an ongoing argument, you still want your family to think highly of him and respect him.
As you can see, these points I’ve shared with you is not a one-time thing, it’s for all time. Valentine’s day is just a day in the year. The vow we made before the Lord when we got married is to love our husbands as long as we live.
How about you, dear readers? What do you do for your husbands that makes him feel loved?
Michelle Padrelanan
Hello, I'm Michelle and I love to encourage others through my blog. I write about homeschool, books and family life. I enjoy testing out products and giving my honest opinion about it. If I'm not in front of my laptop, I can usually be found watching TV or having my favorite frappuccino at Starbucks with my favorite Mary Higgins Clark book.
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awwww….you guys are so sweet. no wonder you have a strong marriage. those chips at mini stop’s a good idea, we must have that sometime. we usually go to mcdo for soda floats and apple pies. we have movie dates here at home, too. we watch movies on the computer over coffee or tostitos when the kids are asleep.:) we haven’t gone out for dates alone for a long time already since finding someone to babysit it kinda hard.
Thanks for the comment, May. It takes a lot of effort to build a marriage. I thank God that He gave me a great husband who recognizes this truth, too.
Nowadays, because of the high cost of watching movies, we also watch movies together on the computer, but then I usually fall asleep in the middle of it. LOL!
ahahaha…ako rin minsan! that’s why we took the movie-watching to the dining table.:)
I love the last one, Michelle, never badmouth your husband to anyone. That is so true. As his wife, you want to protect him and your marriage. When you say nasty things about your hubby to other people, you are sabotaging your own marriage, in a way.
You’re right, Patty. Not saying nasty things about your spouse to other people is actually protecting him and your marriage. Thanks for the comment, Patty!
I wonder how my husband will react if I give him flowers, so much more in public LOL. but you are so sweet to think of these. Your husband is lucky
I also wonder how other men will react to being given flowers. I hope someone tries it and shares how her hubby reacted to it. Thanks for stopping by!
I sing with my husband….. In our deepest sorrow , music became our language. It gives us an enormous amount of joy when we sing and it also lifts our spirits…..
That’s beautiful Juze. I think it’s even more intimate, right?
Yes, dear .. When we sing, we pray and glorify God amidst our circumstances… Making it more intimate…we always end up kissing each other’s cheek as we sing… Assuring our love for one another….
Wow! Nothing can be hotter than a husband and wife loving each other.
Hi Michelle, I haven’t met you yet but I can sense from afar that your marriage is sweet and inspiring. Even your kids radiate a kind of security that can only come from truly loving parents. I especially attest to the power of prayer in changing us wives from being critical to appreciative. Here’s to more years of growing, maturing love!
Hi Michelle, thank you for dropping by my blog. Yes, I agree very much with the power of prayer. It is truly a privilege to pray to a living God and know that He is listening to us. I’ve seen many instances of my prayers answered and my spouse changing as a result. I hope to meet you sometime.:)